🧠 There are TWO ways to see the world

It’s a rare kind of love when being together makes you both hotter, happier, and wealthier… like everything just multiplies in your favor.

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- Case Kenny

1. There are TWO ways to see life

There are two ways to see the world: through the lens of comparison, or through the lens of discernment. One makes you feel behind, unworthy, and like everyone else got the cheat code and you’re just stuck hitting snooze on your potential. The other makes you realize that not everything that glitters is gold, not everyone living loudly is living wisely, and not everything they have is something you even want.

Comparison will make you doubt yourself every time someone else wins. Discernment will remind you that someone else’s win isn’t your loss. It’s just a different path.

Comparison says, “They’re winning, so I must be losing.” Discernment says, “They’re making different choices, do those even align with what I value?” Comparison makes you think love is only real if it’s hard-launched on Instagram with matching sweaters and a caption about soulmates. Discernment reminds you that the loudest love isn’t always the healthiest and what they have in public might not be the case behind-the-scenes. Comparison tells you that if you’re not making seven figures by 30, you’re failing. Discernment whispers “Maybe you’re just building something fulfilling on your own timeline” Or “maybe you don’t even need all the BS that comes with that.”

When you operate through the lens of comparison, you give the world power to define your worth. Immediately. There’s no other option - you measure your timing against people who don’t even have the same goals. But when you choose discernment, you reclaim your authority. You ask smarter questions. You stop assuming everyone else has it figured out and start asking what you want your life to feel like, not just look like.

(I talk about this topic in episode 700 of the podcast)

2. An underrated green flag

It’s such an underrated green flag when you’re venting about your day or having a bit of a meltdown… and they say, “Do you want comfort or solutions from me?”

Most people don’t ask. They just launch into advice. They try to fix you. And you’re sitting there like were you just waiting for your turn to talk?

Imagine that… someone who pauses and asks, “Do you want comfort or solutions?” They are present FOR you. In whatever way you need.

That’s not you being high maintenance, that is what you deserve.

3. You deserve to be happy…

The part of your story where you chose to start over instead of settling for less…

The part of your story where you rebuilt your life around joy instead of survival…

The part of your story where you burned the bridges that were leading you nowhere…

The part of your story where you left someone you still loved because their version of love was destroying you…

The part of your story where you chose to be alone rather than feel lonely with them…

The part of your story where you didn’t know what came next but kept going anyway…

The part of your story where you loved yourself back to life after someone drained you….

… that is going to be why you’re going to be happy.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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