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THREE mindsets to help you reflect, rebel, and reinvent…
1. Story of my life
You spill coffee on your shirt before an important meeting. Story of my life.
Your flight gets delayed. Story of my life.
Someone rejects you. Story of my life.
It sounds like a throwaway phrase, but it isn't. You're not describing a moment, you're summarizing your identity. One event becomes evidence for how life "always" goes for you.
Psychologists have long argued that we make sense of life through stories. We don't experience isolated events, we weave them into narratives. Two people can go through the same setback and tell completely different stories. One says, "Nothing ever works out for me." The other says, "Life usually changes before it gets better."
That's why story of my life deserves more attention than it gets.
Every time you say it, you're rehearsing your life story. So choose your words carefully.
What if your version sounded like this?
Story of my life... things somehow work out.
Story of my life... I always land on my feet.
Story of my life... the hard seasons always end.
The story of your life isn't written only by what happens to you. It's written by the meaning you give those moments.
Language shapes expectation. Expectation shapes action. Action shapes life.
So the next time something goes wrong, pause before saying, Story of my life.
(listen to this full episode here)
2. You’re more attractive than you think..
It’s actually very attractive to have a personality that comes with a bit of attitude for flavor.
It’s actually very attractive to decide you're a catch and let other people take it or leave it.
It’s actually very attractive to nerd out over the things you’re passionate about instead of worrying if they’re cool or not.
It’s actually very attractive to know what you want and to not be subtle about it.
It’s actually very attractive to skip the mind games and just say, “are we on the same page?”
It’s actually very attractive to be delusional about how good life can get.
3. 7 ways I use psychology to believe good things are coming
Talk to yourself in the third person. It calms your nervous system in under one second.
In a series of studies, Ethan Kross and colleagues found that using your own name or speaking to yourself in the third person creates immediate psychological distance. That tiny shift helps you regulate emotion, reduce stress, and think more clearly under pressure, all without suppressing your feelings. (Kross, 2017)
Being optimistic actually works. People who expect positive outcomes tend to achieve more.
Across decades of research, optimism has been linked to greater persistence, better coping, stronger physical health, and higher achievement. Optimistic people don't succeed because they ignore reality, they succeed because they stay engaged with it longer. (Carver, Scheier, & Segerstrom, 2010)
People like you more than you think. We consistently underestimate the good impression we leave after meeting someone new.
Researchers call this the "liking gap." After first conversations, people consistently believed they were liked less than they actually were. In other words, your self-consciousness is usually a less accurate judge than the person sitting across from you. (Boothby et al., 2018)
People are way more willing to help you than you think. We underestimate our chances of hearing “yes” by as much as 50%.
Across multiple experiments, people consistently underestimated how willing strangers were to comply with simple requests. We tend to overestimate the social cost of asking for help, while underestimating how much people enjoy being helpful. (Flynn & Lake, 2008)
Tell yourself “I’m lucky.” Simply believing you're lucky measurably improves performance.
Research shows that activating feelings of luck increase confidence, persistence, and willingness to pursue difficult goals. (Damisch et al., 2010)
People who say "I'm excited" before a performance consistently outperform people who try to "stay calm."
Because anxiety and excitement produce similar physiological arousal, trying to eliminate nerves is often ineffective. Alison Brooks found that simply reframing anxiety as excitement led to better performance in public speaking, singing, and math tasks. (Brooks, 2014)
Thank the universe for the parking spot before you leave. Gratitude shifts your brain from hoping to expecting.
Research on gratitude consistently shows that anticipating and recognizing good things improves optimism, well-being, and positive expectations about the future. Gratitude doesn't guarantee a parking spot but it does train your brain to notice possibility. (Emmons & McCullough, 2003)
Some things I’m excited about…
Let’s spread optimism together
PS: If you work for a company/organization and you’re interested in bringing “the language of optimism” to your team, visit this page. I’ve taught the science and soul of optimism for organizations like Nespresso, Meta, Chase, Microsoft, and Mattel and would love to bring it to your company.
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Life can change for the better overnight. The same life that felt empty yesterday can overflow tomorrow.
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That’s it for today. See you next time.
- Case Kenny
