🧠 The righter partner is a GIVER

Is anyone else tired but hopeful, like your soul knows something amazing is right around the corner? I don’t know about you but I have a feel that by Friday something will shift in your favor.

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Let’s get into it.

1. You deserve a partner who is a GIVER

I don’t mean someone who showers you with gifts or vacations - though those can be fun and are important. I mean a giver whose energy feels different. They give you presence, not just presents. Their love is steady and grounding. They don’t surge in with a burst of effort only to fade when life gets hard. They follow through. They remember. Because they notice. A true giver is a noticer.

Noticing. It’s the “I see you” behind small gestures - refilling the gas tank so your morning is easier, sending a midday text just to make you smile, folding laundry while dinner cooks. None of it needs applause. It simply builds trust.

Research backs up the importance of being with a giving partner. A 2013 University of Notre Dame study titled “Generosity and the Maintenance of Marital Quality” found that couples who practice everyday acts of giving - giving a helping hand, giving time, giving affection - report higher satisfaction and resilience.

A true giver offers reliability. They give attention, patience, and care that make love feel safe - like you no longer have to protect yourself from being hurt. Their generosity isn’t a strategy, it’s a default setting. They don’t give to own a piece of you or to earn points. They give because it lights them up.

The right partner gives space as well as presence. They give patience when you’re tired, grace when you make mistakes, and forgiveness when you stumble.

When you experience this kind of giving, it changes you. Their generosity inspires your own. You start giving back not out of obligation, but because it feels natural. Together you create a life defined by noticing and giving. That’s the kind of love that lasts.

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2. It’s all gonna work out.

I don’t say “it’s all gonna work out” blindly or in some toxic positive way. I say it because YOU have proof of why it’s true. You have a pile of receipts of why YOU are going to make it work out. Here’s a short list of reasons why.

You are a fighter who always finds a way… and that’s why it’s all gonna work out.

You never stop betting on yourself… and that’s why it’s all gonna work out.

You’d rather start over than settle for less… and that’s why it’s all gonna work out.

You trust your own fire more than trying to be everyone’s cup of tea… and that’s why it’s all gonna work out.

You’ve been through darkness but still sprinkle kindness wherever you go… and that’s why it’s all gonna work out.

You are a beautiful soul who refuses to let life harden you… and that’s why it’s all gonna work out.

3. TWELVE things people learn too late in life

1. If it’s meant for you, it won’t pull you close one day and push you away the next.

2. The entire point of life is to love your spicy weirdo self so much that you become a magnet for people who match your frequency.

3. If someone fumbles what you bring to the table, that’s their loss… not yours.

4. Life is so much more fun when you stop waiting for the stars to align and you start dancing under the ones already shining.

5. The toughest chapters of life can lead to the most beautiful stories of reinvention.

6. It’s important to have people in your life who remind you what you bring to the table.

7. Hold out for the kind of love where you don’t need a therapist and two friends to translate their last message.

8. Never underestimate how saying yes to something wildly out of your comfort zone can change your life for the better. 

9. You weren’t built for casual. You were made for love so secure it echoes into your next life.

10. The part of your story where you chose to start over instead of settling for less is usually the reason you end up happy.

11. A healthy relationship will make you feel protected, not like you have to protect yourself from being hurt.

12. Sometimes things unravel because holding them together would’ve held you back.

Today’s podcast episode

737 - You deserve a partner who is a GIVER In this episode, I talk about what it means to have a "giving partner" and how their energy is different. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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