🧠 The "one-sided beef" mindset

Before this week ends, something will click and everything will align. I hope you claim this energy.

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- Case Kenny

1. The “one-sided beef” mindset

One-sided beef is when someone’s upset, bitter, or creating drama… and you don’t engage. You don’t argue, explain, or try to fix it. It’s their beef. You’ve exited the chat, and they’re still typing. That’s one-sided beef.

It shows up in moments like: you set a boundary and they take it personally; you ended something respectfully but they twisted the story. You’re not holding resentment. You’re not reacting. That’s the power of not getting pulled in.

Most beef isn’t about you. It’s about someone else needing to preserve a story that lets them avoid growth. You became a mirror, and they didn’t like the reflection. Once you realize that, you’re free. You stop trying to edit your reflection in their mirror.

Let them think what they need to think. Let them spin their version. Peace doesn’t come from being understood, it comes from no longer needing to be. You don’t need to prove your integrity to people who never saw it. You don’t need to offer receipts for decisions you made in alignment with yourself. You don’t need to shrink back just to make others feel comfortable.

This isn’t about “rising above.” It’s about exiting the narrative entirely. Build a life so full of alignment that their drama sounds like background static. Anchor yourself in truth. Ask: did I act with honesty? With care? With self-respect? That’s your clarity. That’s your closure.

Let them mislabel your growth. Let them call your peace “cold.” Let them think it’s beef when you simply walked away. The most peaceful decision you can make is letting people be wrong about you. Because trying to correct them would mean stepping back into a version of yourself that needed their approval. That’s not your job anymore.

Keep choosing your clarity over their chaos. Not because you’re better than them, but because you’re finally being better to yourself.

(I talk about this topic in episode 710 of the podcast)

2. Am I the only one?

Am I the only one who still makes a wish at 11:11? Am I the only one who still takes my once a year birthday wish pretty seriously? 

I’m 37 and writing that makes me laugh a bit, but hope is a habit I refuse to break.

So yeah, I’m gonna keep making these wishes. Little affirmations. Not because I think they guarantee anything, but because they keep me open to still believe the universe can surprise me in beautiful ways. What about you?

3. Poems of hope

There’s something beautiful about people who haven't had easy lives, but are determined to savor the sweetness life has to offer. They’ve fought for their peace. You can sense it in their presence. They have a calm warmth about them and they won’t let life take it from them. They could write novels about pain but choose to sing poems of hope.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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