🧠 The more audacity you have...

There’s something beautiful about people who stopped apologizing for their fire and started using it to light their own way.

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1. Dance with your audacity

When it comes to goals, we need to start thinking ourselves. Life gets noticeably better when you stop setting lowest-common-denominator goals. When you align your life with average standards, you get average experiences.

These are the goals we chase because we’re told to: make money, buy things, be successful, find a partner, own a home. They’re not bad goals, but they’re borrowed ones. They’re what everyone else wants, not necessarily what you want. Without conviction, you end up copying and pasting your life instead of writing it.

Audacity is the cure. It’s the secret ingredient to a life worth living. It’s the courage to look around and say, “What if this isn’t it?” What if the job, the relationship, or the version of success you’ve been chasing doesn’t actually fit you?

Audacity is dancing with your boldest self - taking risks that scare you, speaking honestly, reinventing yourself, and being okay with looking ridiculous if it means chasing what you truly want.

The more audacity you have, the more life rewards you.

Don’t be afraid to be a beginner. Don’t be afraid to be weird. Failure isn’t the enemy - stagnation is. Life’s too short to live someone else’s dream.

Breaking free from lowest-common-denominator goals is about reclaiming your power. You can start over at 30 or 45. You can find love later, pivot careers later, rebuild later, and still win. Audacity makes it possible.

So that’s the lesson: dance with your audacity. Because when you don’t know what you truly want, society will sell you its shallow version of happiness. And it always comes with a price tag - your joy.

You’re meant for more. Have the audacity to prove it.

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2. Reflections on your 30s and beyond

There’s something eye-opening about life when you hit 30 or 40. You start to connect the dots in ways you never did before. Here are 8 eye opening moments of clarity I’ve had in my 30s. Can you relate?

• In your 30s there will be a moment you see how much of your life was built to please others. It’s very important to burn it all down and rebuild it for yourself.

• In your 30s there will be a dimmed version of yourself that people expect you to be. It’s very important to disappoint them.

• In your 30s there will be a person who only misses you when they feel you slipping away. It’s very important to stop picking up the phone.

• In your 30s there will be a time where you realize you don’t want the same things as the people at your table. It’s very important to find a new table.

• In your 30s there will be a day when success starts to feel different — less applause, more peace. It’s very important to follow peace.

• In your 30s there will be a family expectation that feels like a chain around your neck. It’s very important to break it.

• In your 30s there will be an experience that wrecks “how it was supposed to go.” It’s very important to let it redirect you to something better.

• In your 30s there will be a leap of faith that makes no logical sense but feels like destiny. It’s very important to trust that feeling.

3. An underrated green flag

Here’s an underrated green flag and it’s exactly what you deserve in a partner.

It’s when they talk about you like you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to them.

You deserve someone who’s proud to say your name out loud — someone who describes you like you’re their biggest blessing, and who brags about you when you’re not around to hear it. 

The kind of love that celebrates you out loud… that’s the kind of love that lasts.

Today’s podcast episode

747 - Do men ever change? (w/ Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham) In this episode, I'm joined by the hosts of the "U Up?" podcast to talk about dating and love in 2025. We talk about "right person, wrong time," what's the point of love, and more. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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