🧠 Rip up the script

Do you know how strong you have to be to still radiate love, even after everything you’ve been through? That means you’ve already won. If you can keep your heart open after all that, there’s nothing life can throw at you that you can’t handle.

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Let’s get into it.

1. You still have time to pivot

Sometimes I like to pretend I’m 70. But I woke up today at 37 and it feels like I’ve been given a second chance. All I see are chapters waiting to be written. A jackpot of extra time. The gift of blank pages.

What a wonderful, sparkling kind of wealth - being rich with time.

Rich. Because you can leave a relationship at 40 and still have decades to experience the love you deserve.

Rich. Because you can walk away from a six–figure job at 35 and still build a career that truly lights you up.

Rich. Because at 30, 40, or 50… you still have time to pivot your life the moment you decide you deserve better.

This is the perfect moment to rip up the old script and write the wildest plot twist of your life.

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2. Right person, wrong time

It’s frustrating to meet someone who feels aligned with you only to realize you’re in different chapters of life. It creates this nagging what if - unfinished business in your mind and heart. But I want to challenge this idea.

They were the wrong person for the life you’re meant to have.

Timing is a hurdle, yes, but when something is truly right, we figure it out. People build careers while raising kids. They chase dreams with limited resources. If love -arguably the most important thing in life - were truly right, timing wouldn’t stop it. If they wanted to be with you, they would’ve tried. If you wanted to be with them, you would’ve too.

Think about it another way: the right person grows with you. Life changes constantly. You change constantly. The right person doesn’t require perfect conditions; they adapt and evolve with you. If someone couldn’t do that, they weren’t right for you, no matter how strong the connection felt.

And if timing were really the problem, the solution would’ve been effort. People who want to be in your life don’t wait for the stars to align. They say, let’s figure this out. Effort bends circumstances. Effort makes time.

When you stop blaming timing, you take your power back. You stop waiting for fate to realign and start realizing the right person will love you fully, presently, without hesitation.

You didn’t miss your one shot at happiness. You didn’t mess up. It simply wasn’t your person. And that should bring peace because what’s truly meant for you won’t require ideal timing. It will just require each other.

(if you want more on this topic, listen to episode 681 of my podcast)

3. Don’t play hard to get, be hard to get

Playing hard to get is a losing games. Being hard to get is a standard - it’s deciding you don’t need someone to “win” you, you want someone to match you.

Playing hard to get attracts the exact people you DON’T want in your life - surface level people who are just going through the motions. It’s a game for THEM, they feed off it. They show up with rehearsed lines and charm and they just want excitement and validation, not emotional investment.

Being hard to get is having a life so full, you’re not waiting around for someone to validate your existence. It's saying “If anyone can have it or if they give it to everyone, I don't want it.”

This is a reverse UNO card that exposes people who are playing their own games - love-bombers, smooth-talkers, people whose interest evaporates when they realize you deserve more.

Being hard to get is deciding your value does not need games to prove its worth. 

(click here to listen to this episode of New Mindset, Who Dis)

Today’s podcast episode

733 - Don’t let them make you feel guilty You should never let anyone make you feel guilty because they are suffering the consequences of their own actions.

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My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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