🧠 Life's too short for regret...

The joy of living without regret. It’s better to have stories of love and laughter than memories of what might have been. Here are three mindsets to help you move forward with clarity.

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Don’t waste the time you’ve been given

Listen to today’s podcast where I talk about how indecision and inaction hold us back in life. I talk about regret and how to stop letting it creep up on you.

• “Intentional YOLO”

• Inaction vs. indecision

• Are you “ready?”

Listen here.

2. THREE signs the breakup was necessary

FIRST… Did you make excuses for your ex when you were dating?

Do you no longer have to make those excuses? Well... then the breakup was right.

You should never have to make excuses for someone’s behavior, dishonesty, mixed signals or lack of commitment.

- They’re just so busy… I'll be their priority soon.

- They're still hurt by their ex… that’s why they go hot and cold.

- They lied but they did it to protect me. 

You should never have to make excuses for someone.

TWO… Do you like yourself better when you were in the relationship or now?

Take them out of the picture… Do you like the YOU you were while you were with them? Or the YOU after?

A relationship is supposed to help you level up. Your person is supposed to complement who you are. They aren’t supposed to drain you, make you feel less capable or anxious.

If you find yourself saying the person I am outside of the relationship feels more free, more energetic, more ambitious, more driven, more secure… the breakup was necessary.

THREE... Who did all the "changing" in the relationship?

A healthy relationship requires change.

But think back to it… who was doing all the change?

Was it all you? Did you change aspects of yourself, aspects of your habits, your dreams, the way you spoke? Did you change to appease them? To keep things moving forward? To make sure they liked you? Or because you genuinely wanted to?

I’m not a proponent of keeping score but take a peek at the scoreboard. How many times did YOU change? How times did THEY change? Change is good. But it has to be for the right reasons. If you were pushed to change to keep them happy… the breakup was right.

3. Not where you’re supposed to be in life?

Do you ever feel like you’re not where you're supposed to be in life?

Celebrate it. Your ability to be happy is not limited to what you achieve “on time.” Life isn’t about speed, it's about direction. Wouldn’t you say it’s better to wander in the RIGHT direction than sprint in the WRONG one? To change your mind rather than to just do what’s expected of you?

Your happiness doesn’t come from where society thinks you “should” be by now or where younger you thought you should be by now. It's about where you are, and the beauty you find there. So at any age it's okay to rewrite the script in search of that. To change directions. To reinvent. 

Life isn’t just about milestones, it’s about collecting memories. And right now if that’s what you’re doing, you're exactly where you’re supposed to be.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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