🧠 Life meets you at your level of audacity

The toughest chapters of life can lead to the most beautiful stories of reinvention.

I truly believe that life meets you at your level of audacity. This is particularly true in relationships. People are way more attracted to your “non-conforming” traits than you think - that’s your passion, your intensity, your weirdness, and your realness. I prove this in my book “The Opposite of Settling.” For a very limited time the book is 30% OFF on Amazon. Grab it here.

Let’s get into it.

1. I wish I could do my 20s over again

If I could go back and live my 20s over again I’d go back and I’d stop waiting. I’d live with more audacity.

I’d stop waiting for the stars to align and I’d just dance under the ones already shining.

Looking back, I spent so much time saying “I’ll be happy when I have $100K, when I have this thing, when life is finally this way.” It was all a waiting game.

If I could do it over again, I’d go back and I’d ask for what I wanted instead of hoping someone would offer it to me. I’d text first without overanalyzing. I’d apply for the job I felt “under-qualified” for. I’d start the business without having a 5-year plan.

I’d live by the motto “life meets you at your level of audacity.”

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2. Are you actually compatible with them?

We throw words like “compatibility” and “chemistry” around and invent endless ways to measure them: boxes to check, tests to give, questions to ask. But we usually get it backwards. We obsess over the other person - what they say, how they act, how much effort they give. But the real question isn’t about them at all.

Do I like who I am when I’m with this person? That’s the question to ask yourself.

Compatibility isn’t about their résumé of good traits. It’s about what their presence does to you. Someone can be attentive, funny, ambitious - yet if you bite your tongue more than you speak, if you feel smaller instead of bigger, that’s not compatibility. The right person might challenge you, frustrate you, even push your buttons, but they make you braver, more honest, more alive. Compatibility can sometimes be less about their behavior and more about the reflection you see in yourself when you’re with them.

Here are three questions worth asking asking yourself:

1. Do I like who I am with them?

2. Do I like who I’m becoming beside them?

3. Do I still feel like I belong to myself while with them?

If any answer is no, love can’t hide the truth. Real compatibility doesn’t shrink you, it stretches you. It supports your growth instead of fearing it. It respects your solitude instead of suffocating it.

The healthiest relationships are two whole people choosing each other, not two halves merging into one. The right person won’t just fit into your life, they’ll help you keep a life that’s your own. That’s the rare kind of compatibility worth holding onto.

3. You’re a 100

You’re a 10 but you’ve been through a lot and still refuse to turn cold, so you’re a 100.

You're a 10 but you refuse to become like the people who hurt you, so you’re a 100.

You're a 10 but you’re a “gets excited about the little things’' type of person so you’re a 100.

You're a 10 but you’d rather be passionate and real instead of trying to be everyone’s cup of tea, so you’re a 100.

You're a 10 but you still believe the universe will surprise you in beautiful ways, so you’re a 100.

** you’re a 100 because you let your “spark” guide you to the love and life you deserve. My book “The Opposite of Settling” shows you how to attract the right people in your life by letting your spark lead you. It’s currently 30% off!

Today’s podcast episode

739 - What it means to truly be “desired” by someone I talk about a new definition of "desire." I talk about how to know if someone truly desires you or just "wants" you. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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