🧠 How to stop overthinking

You look happier since you decided you can do everything your overthinking says you can’t.

Here are three mindsets to help you trust yourself, your relationships, and the timing of your life.

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Ask this question to see who they really are

Listen to my new podcast episode about a single question that can reveal who someone aspires to be, or what they’re insecure about.

• Who do they respect and WHY?

• Are they drawn to depth and character or flash and surface-level?

• How to use this question as a measure of compatibility

Listen here.

2. How to actually stop overthinking

We all overthink things in life but the reality is that it literally gets us nowhere. All it really does is make us anxious, slow downs our decision making and blinds us to how amazing we really are and how much momentum we have in our lives.

When you overthink, you look at everything you’ve done, everything you haven't done, everything that’s happened to you, relationships, career, health, etc. and you overthink the what ifs.

What if I had done this instead of that? Said this instead of that? What if, what if, what if?

I used to lay awake at night overthinking every decision I’ve ever made and it ended up being this really sh*tty form of self guilt. BUT I've found a way to shut those thoughts up once and for all.

How? It’s actually a quote from a movie - No Country for Old Men. That quote is: "You’ll never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from."

You’ll never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from.

YES! This idea rescues me from my overthinking because it’s better (and easier) to see life this way. It encourages me to not judge something or to run the "what ifs" until I have taken time to see the bigger picture.

It reminds me that something I perceive as bad happening could actually be saving me from something that’s truly not meant to be. It reminds me that something bad could be saving me from something even worse.

Instead of overthinking this, now I say:

I don’t know what worse things this helped me avoid, so I’m OK with it happening the way it happened. I’m grateful it happened the way it happened. It’s protecting me.

This mindset can save you from overthinking. It can lead you to a peaceful acceptance of what’s happened in your life because you now see any bad luck, failure, rejection, life curveballs as serving to protect you from even bigger ones in the future.

You can grow to see that breakup or that rejection by someone as a sign that you're being protected from something that isn't meant to be.

You grow to see that career curveball - maybe it’s getting let go or being passed up for a promotion - as a sign that you're being protected from something that’s not meant to be.

You never know what worse luck your bad luck is saving you from.

So the next time you find yourself tempted to overthink some turn of events in your life, consider that bad luck happened to save you from even worse luck. Trust that whatever turn of events happened is protecting you from what’s not meant to be. Bad is protecting you from worse.

3. A two-sentence reminder

Life doesn't end when you have to tear down everything you’ve built and start over. That’s when better things fall into place.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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