🧠 How to spot red flags faster

I just want to help people be more optimistic in life. To believe that beautiful things are on their way. This is my new project and it’d mean a lot to me if you tuned in and supported it. Short, daily reminders of all the good happening in the world. I hope it speaks to you 🙂 

- Case Kenny

1. The case for caring more…

I have a thought and it’s one that might go against what the internet’s been telling you, especially when it comes to protecting yourself in dating. You’ve heard it before: care less, and you protect yourself. Whoever cares first loses. I think that’s terrible advice. It doesn’t protect you. It just delays the fallout.

Caring more is what actually protects you. Caring more is what helps you quickly spot red flags.

Caring more early on in dating gives you clarity faster. And clarity is what saves you, not indifference. When you care more, try harder, and you’re willing to be the who’s eager and energetic… you’re gathering data. You’re showing up fully and honestly. While everyone else is waiting for the other person to try first, you’re already collecting the answers. If they match your effort? Great. If they don’t? Now you know. No confusion. No wasted time.

Caring less might feel like protection, but all it does is disconnect you from your own standards. You downplay your needs, pretend you’re cool with crumbs, and end up stuck in limbo wondering if you imagined the connection. That’s not safety. That’s self-abandonment.

But when you care more? You take control. You become the standard. You say: this is who I am when I show up fully, can you meet me here? If not, cool. You’re not for me. That’s how you filter people early, not after six months of guessing.

Caring more isn’t about being naive. It’s not about chasing people. It’s about creating truth. It’s about showing up for yourself with the same energy you hope someone else brings. That’s not just romantic. That’s practical. It’s the sharpest filter for BS. So care more - not later, not just when it feels safe. Care early. Care loudly. That’s how you spot who’s right for you and who isn’t.

(listen to episode 717 here)

2. Life’s too short to do these 8 things…

Life’s too short to be low maintenance. Love a lot, offer a lot, and expect a lot.

Life’s too short to be subtle.  Be clear and direct about what you want in a relationship, in bed, and on your pizza.

Life’s too short to tone down the best parts of your personality. Be your realest, weirdest, and most ridiculous self.

Life’s too short to avoid being cringe. Be the person who actually enjoys life instead of just commenting on it.

Life’s too short to wait for the “right time.” Take the leap of faith today and call it research for your future memoir.

Life’s too short to accept “almost” when you’re built for “definitely.”

Life’s too short to not believe in magic. Believe in unrealistic and wonderfully beautiful plot twists.

Life’s too short to overthink the outfit. Wear the absurdly fun one.

3. This is love…

The purest form of love is when someone takes an interest in your hobbies, just to connect with you on another level.

It’s when they get excited about your niche obsessions like they’re their own. They get excited about the stuff you’re passionate about, even if it’s not their thing. 

It’s important to you, so it’s important to them.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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