🧠 Are they "emotionally unavailable?"

You found the courage to start over, even when it felt like the end. That's strength. Here are three mindsets to remind you of your strength.

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Are they “emotionally unavailable?”

Listen to today’s podcast where I talk about the difference between closeness and distance and the actions of “emotionally unavailable people.” Take your power back and realize:

• The warning signs

• The ONLY question you need to ask yourself

• What you actually deserve…

Listen here.

2. Have you ever been told this?

Have you ever been told that you’re difficult or stubborn or too ___?

Please don’t believe them. Of course be honest with yourself, go to therapy, challenge yourself but we need to realize that people will always judge you through the lens of their own reality.

But realize that some people will always misunderstand and give you unfair untrue labels you because they're only committed to seeing you through their experiences.

You’re only “difficult” for someone who’s always used to getting their way.

You’re only “unrealistic” for someone who wants to keep you on their same level.

You’re only “stubborn” for someone who wants your standards to be negotiable.

You’re only “dramatic” for someone who is uncomfortable with honesty.

3. Is it loss OR transition?

The next time something in your life changes, the next time you lose something in life… ask yourself: Is this LOSS or is this TRANSITION?

Change is always going to be uncomfortable and as humans we associate discomfort with negative. That’s only normal but not all change is negative. Not all change is loss.

How can we prove to ourselves that the discomfort we feel from change in life is a positive one?

You probably have many examples in your life where good things happened because of change. But think about the examples that come to mind… You probably choose the ones where YOU decided to change. YOU broke up with your ex, YOU changed jobs, YOU moved cities…

But what about the changes we didn't want in the first place? Why can’t we apply the same logic to those? We have proof that change CAN be good… the change that WE started. Why can’t we believe that the change given to us CAN be good as well? Why can’t we believe that change given to us is a reflection of transition instead of lack?

Transition means you’re now in between two things - in between something that wasn’t right for you - and the future which holds something better?

Is it loss or is it transition? Loss is only loss if you decide this is the end of your story. But if you decide it’s not… you’re simply in a state of transition.

You’re in between what wasn't right for you and what is right for you. You're in between relationships, jobs, people, and places. The discomfort you feel is simply the discomfort of you moving past something that wasn’t right.

The only way it’s true loss is if you decide this is the last page of the last chapter of your life story. And you don’t believe that, do you? You are simply in a state of transition. Not loss.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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