🧠 Don't let their "self awareness" fool you

Confidence isn’t loud. It’s a quiet glow that says, “I know who I am, and I'm good with it.”

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Don’t be fooled by their “self awareness”

Listen to today’s podcast where I talk about how to answer the question, “do they have self awareness?” I talk about what self awareness is and is not and why it’s a requirement in a relationship.

• Self awareness is the foundation for kindness, empathy, patience, etc.

• Don’t let someone “weaponize” their self awareness

• “Admitting you're a jerk isn't an excuse to keep being one.”

• How do you know if they are self aware?

Listen here.

2. This is why you’re stronger than you think

You’re strong because you recognize there are both beautiful and ugly pieces to your story... and yet you choose to define yourself by the beautiful ones. Defining yourself by your ugly traits or ugly experiences is the easy choice: “I’m insecure, I’m lost, I’m clingy, I’m too demanding, I’m falling behind.” You’re strong because you don’t do that.

You recognize that those are things you’re working on, but you still have beautiful things about you: You’re a good friend. You’re passionate. You’re reliable. You’re loyal. You’re curious. You’re disciplined. You’re empathetic.

You’re strong because you’re a work in progress faced with ugly truths and ugly experiences… but you don’t allow them to define you. It takes a strong person to realize that not only is the world NOT out to get you… but you're also NOT out to get yourself.

You are not defined by the pain that tried to break you, but by the strength you found to write your own story.

You are not defined by the nights you went to sleep feeling defeated, but by the mornings you woke up and tried again.

You are not defined by the times someone treated you like an option, but by deciding to treat yourself as a priority.

You are not defined by the apologies you never got, but by the closure you created for yourself.

You are not defined by the hurt caused by cold people, but by the warmth you continue to bring into the world.

3. Big life lesson…

You are too full of life to chase someone who only looks back to ensure you’re still following. Please don’t forget that.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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