🧠 Delusional in the direction of joy

People who are passionate and unapologetic about being the boldest spice in the cabinet, please never change.

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1. Be delusional in the direction of joy

First you’re “delusional,” then you’re living the life you always knew was possible.

First you’re “too much,” then you’re surrounded by people who love every ounce of your passion.

First you’re “asking for too much,” then you’re surrounded by exactly what you held out for.

First you’re “unrealistic,” then you’ve got a calendar full of things you actually want to show up for.

That’s the pattern we need to embrace - the same traits that people mock you for in the beginning are the ones they’ll eventually call inspiring. The world loves to doubt what it hasn’t seen yet. Let them call you delusional, unrealistic, or too much.

Those words are just mile markers on the road to becoming exactly who you said you’d be.

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2. Why are they being distant with you?

A friend or a partner is becoming distant with you - you’re close, things feel good, but then overnight they pull back.

The internet offers plenty of theories of why: maybe they’re stressed and need space, maybe they feel suffocated, maybe they’re questioning the relationship. Sure, those can be valid. People sometimes need solitude to process stress or uncertainty. Balance matters and space can be healthy.

But there’s a key difference between healthy space and emotional avoidance.

When someone goes from daily connection to radio silence with no explanation, it’s avoidance. Sure there’s some nuance here with the randomness that life might throw someone’s way, but distance without communication is a way to control the narrative without confronting the truth. It’s easier to pull away than to say, “I’m confused,” or “I don’t know what I want.”

If someone retreats and won’t communicate, that behavior speaks to their lack of willingness to handle the discomfort of real connection. It’s not about you expecting too much, it’s about them avoiding vulnerability. And while you don’t need to take every bit of distance personally, you also don’t need to tolerate unexplained disappearances.

Healthy space comes with context: “I need a day to think.” Unhealthy distance comes with nothing. One is honest self-care. The other erodes trust. If someone consistently chooses silence over honesty, believe what that shows you. They’re protecting their comfort, not the relationship.

You deserve someone who stays present even when things are messy. Someone who leans in, not out.

3. Embrace the cosmic detours

I have a theory that when a relationship falls apart out of nowhere, you spill your coffee all over you, or miss your train you are being cosmically delayed to dodge something worse.

Life is full of invisible plot twists - detours that quietly save you from heartbreak, wrong jobs, and wasted time, from an accident down the street.

Maybe the job rejection saved you from the worst burnout of your career? Maybe hitting all red lights helped you avoid an accident? Maybe that breakup saved you?

It’s all a cosmic shuffle designed to keep you out of harm’s way and in the orbit of things that actually belong to you. 

Isn’t it freeing to believe the universe isn’t trying to break you, but to redirect you to something better?

This week’s podcast episodes

738 - You should expect miracles to happen talk about a mindset of "provoking miracles” and 5 psychological based-belief systems to attract them. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

737 - You deserve a partner who is a GIVER In this episode, I talk about what it means to have a "giving partner" and how their energy is different. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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