🧠 Cringe, but free

Hello, friend. I hope you find time to prioritize yourself this week - listen to a podcast, go for a walk, journal, reorganize your apartment, commit to what makes you happy.

Here are three mindsets to help you prioritize your happiness.

** I just released a new episode of New Mindset, Who Dis :)

- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Be cringe

“Show me a guy who’s afraid to look bad, and I’ll show you a guy you can beat every time.”- @ShaneAParrish

Here's the reality of life: we avoid embarrassing ourselves at all costs. We would much rather NOT do something and look cool in the process than do something and look cringy. But that is not living life on your terms. Living life on your terms is realizing that embarrassment is a side effect of a life fully lived. Embarrassment is what happens when you say too much, ask for too much, wear too much, push yourself too far, etc.

It’s what happens when you try something before you’re fully ready. It’s what happens when you speak up without having a full thought. It’s what happens when you get too much confidence and it comes out in an awkward way.

But THAT’S a great great thing! The reality is... you embarrass yourself when you try too a bit too hard or too early. I’ll take a life of trying too hard any day of the week. I’ll take a life of pushing myself too hard over a life of not pushing myself at all. Wouldn't you?

Wouldn't you rather rather go fast than slow? Wouldn't you rather rather put yourself out there too much than not at all? Wouldn't you rather push yourself out of your comfort zone than never leave it?

Embarrassment and cringy moments are simply reflections of a life being lived fully. You tried and didn't get the result you wanted. BUT you were in the game. You weren't on the sidelines. There is NO lack when that's the case.

THAT is living life on your own terms. Not everyone can say that. Most people would much rather NOT do something and look cool in the process than do something and look cringe.

Embarrassment is a side effect of living a full life.

2. Don’t force it

Following the crowd is a guarantee to end up exactly where everyone else does, not necessarily where you want to go.

Today’s episode of the podcast is a really interesting look into WHY we conform, and more importantly, how we can use this insight to reflect and rebel. I talk about something called The Abilene Paradox and I also provide two questions to ask yourself to ensure you don’t fall victim to it.

• what is The Abilene Paradox?

• what is misinformed conformity

• TWO questions to ask yourself

Listen here.

3. 5 questions for clarity in your relationship

I saw these on Reddit and wanted to share them with you. There’s power in the right question at the right time, so keep these handy for when you might need them.

5 questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure about your relationship.

• If someone told you you’re a lot like your partner, would this be a compliment to you?

• Are you truly fulfilled or just less lonely?

• Are you able to be unapologetically yourself or do you feel the need to show up differently to please your partner?

• Are you in love with who your partner is right now as a whole, or are you only in love with their good side, their potential, or the idea of them?

• Would you want your future/imagined child to date someone like your partner?

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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