🧠 The only closure you need...

Sometimes the only closure you need is reminding yourself of what you bring to the table.

Here are three mindsets to help you create your own closure.

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Closure is an inside job

Listen to today’s podcast where I talk about why closure is what you get when you decide to move on, it’s not the key to moving on. I talk about why we have the process of “closure” backwards.

• We don’t need permission or apologies to move on

• Shift from “why” to “what”

• Forward, not backward

Listen here.

2. Consistency, not “interest”

The best thing you can do for yourself is value consistency more than “interest.”

You deserve someone who loves you with ACTIONS. Consistently.

As a society, we’re obsessed with finding the “right person” and we tend to look at our relationships through the lens of “does it feel right?” But there’s a lot of people who might “feel right” to you - they’re funny, attractive, easy going, etc. That’s not enough! Just because they’re interested in YOU isn't enough. What makes someone right or wrong for you is what they DO. Actions. Verbs.

You deserve someone who is the “right person” because they do the right things (in the same way you do the right things for them).

The right person:

- makes promises and keeps them.

- listens not only to WHAT you say, but also WHY you're saying it.

- doesn’t want you to be low maintenance - they want you to be real.

- can admit their mistake instead of making an excuse

- asks you questions instead of judging you.

- takes the time to truly understand you. 

- calms you down when you’re upset, and hypes you up when you’re down.

- genuinely cares about how their actions impact you

- remembers the little things because to them, they’re big things.

- prioritizes understanding over being right

- doesn’t want you to negotiate your non-negotiables.

- can have deep and meaningful conversations.

- doesn’t make you guess how they feel.

3. Biggest comeback?

Have the audacity to give yourself what someone else wouldn't. Become the person no one thought you were capable of becoming. Decide someone else's ceiling in life is not your own. Move on and let karma sort out the rest.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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