🧠 Choose happiness over history

Hello, friend. Thank YOU for being the light in a world that can be dark at times. Thank you for making your kindness a way of life, not a strategy. Thank you for choosing to stand out when it’s far easier to blend in.

Let’s get into it. Here are three mindsets to help you prioritize your happiness.

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Regret or nostalgia?

Somewhere in the future, your older self is watching you through memories. Whether it's with regret or nostalgia depends on what you do now. (GS Bhogal)

Join me in being fired up this week. If today’s episode of the podcast doesn’t do it, consider your ability to forgive yourself. It takes a strong person to forgive themselves and to say, “I got it wrong once before, but I can get it right next time.” That is the difference between a head filled with regret and a head filled with memories. Which do you want? Do you want to look back on “what if” or on a vibrant spectrum of memories - some good, some bad - but all reflective of a life well-lived?

You are strong. Here’s a reminder:

You let someone lose you instead of begging them to choose you. That’s strength.

You healed your wounds instead of spreading the pain. That's strength.

You chose to be kind in a world that wasn't. That's strength.

You saw the light in yourself, even when you were surrounded by darkness. That's strength.

2. The “Screw It” Philosophy

In today’s episode of the podcast I talk about how to no longer live in the land of “what ifs.”

I talk about why I say “if you’re unhappy with where you are, the risk of staying the same is greater than the risk of change.” I talk about how to stop talking yourself out of at least trying something new. I talk about the “Screw It” Philosophy.

Listen here.

3. A mindset to stop your overthinking

We all overthink things in life but the reality is that it gets us nowhere. All it really does is make us anxious, slow downs our decision making, and blinds us to how amazing we really are and how much momentum we have in our lives.

When you overthink, you look at everything you’ve done, everything you haven't done, everything that’s happened to you, relationships, career, health, etc. and you overthink the what ifs.

What if I had done this instead of that? Said this instead of that? What if, what if, what if?

There’s a quote from movie No Country for Old Men that says: "You’ll never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from."

This idea rescues me from my overthinking because it encourages me to not judge something or to run the "what ifs" until I’ve taken time to see the bigger picture. It reminds me that something I perceive as bad happening could actually be saving me from something. It reminds me that something bad could be saving me from something even worse.

Instead of overthinking this, now I say:

I don’t know what worse things this helped me avoid, so I’m OK with it happening the way it happened. I’m grateful it happened the way it happened. It’s protecting me.

This mindset can save you from overthinking.

It can lead you to a peaceful acceptance of what’s happened in your life because you now see any bad luck, failure, rejection, life curveballs as serving to protect you from even bigger ones in the future.

You can grow to see that breakup or that rejection by someone as a sign that you're being protected from something that isn't meant to be.

You can grow to see that career curveball - maybe it’s getting let go or being passed up for a promotion - as a sign that you're being protected from something that’s not meant to be.

You never know what worse luck your bad luck is saving you from.

Trust that whatever turn of events happened is protecting you from what’s not meant to be. Bad is protecting you from worse.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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