🧠 You can't build a relationship with this person

Hello, my friend. Let’s get right into it. Here are three mindsets to inspire you.

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- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. You can’t build a relationship with someone who…

On today’s episode of the podcast, I put three relationship facts on trial. I examine three dating behaviors that we need to become resolute about NOT ignoring. 1, 2, 3.

- you can’t build a relationship with someone who won’t talk about the future

- you can’t build a relationship with someone who doesn’t want depth

- you can’t build a relationship with someone who doesn’t appreciate the REAL you

Listen to today’s episode here.

2. Focus on friendships

“Imagine this: You’re single. Forever. The end. Now imagine this: You have no friends. Forever. The end. Many of us misinterpret our need for strong friendships as a need for a romantic relationship. You can be happy without a partner. You cannot be happy without friends.” (Mark Manson)

I really like this perspective. Life is bigger than romantic love. Tap into the power of friendship in your life. Today is a good day to text someone. Reach out to someone. Rekindle an old friendship. Form a new friendship. Be eager. Be curious. Show interest.

Adult friendships are hard. Everyone’s busy & life happens. But you gotta let people know when you’re thinking about them. A simple “thinking of you, hope all is well” really goes a long way. (Feyiszn)

3. You have a superpower

We’ve all been given something… but there's usually a "downside."

- if your superpower is you’re highly empathetic… sometimes you end up giving and giving and giving until you burn yourself out. Downside.

- if your superpower is you’re incredibly kind and selfless… sometimes you end up being taken advantage of by people. Downside.

- if your superpower is you’re highly disciplined and motivated… sometimes you end up neglecting other areas of life - relationships, self love, etc. Downside.

The reality of life is that everything is about balance - you do one thing and it impacts another area of your life. We tend to forget that this is totally normal and so we end up questioning our superpower. We think it brings about more harm than good. We become tempted to give it up in favor of something more comfortable or we allow someone in our lives - an ex, maybe your job, a friend, etc. - to convince us our superpower is not actually a superpower.

No more! Don't turn your back on your superpower. Kindness, empathy, optimistic, goofiness, confidence, etc. are 100% superpowers.

You're going to be tempted to change...

- You're going to be tempted to close off and become cold because you were treated the same way.

- You're going to be tempted to lower your standards because you're sick and tired of striking out.

- You're going to be tempted to chill with your drive and aspirations because you just want to be normal and enjoy life without huge goals.

- You're going to be tempted to stop asking why and just accept life, roll with the punches and get in line.

But you have a superpower for a reason. I'm not afraid to say something overly cliche like kindness can change the world. Or creativity can change the world. Or curiosity can change the world. It absolutely can! It can change your life and the world around you. BUT if you throw it aside because the going gets tough sometimes… you’ll never know. You'll never know why you've been the superpower you've been given.

You are wired to be kind, empathetic, driven, curious, with high standards, etc. Don’t let the world rewire you. Don’t let your ex rewire you. Don’t let your boss, your job, the internet, your friends or your family rewire you.

You have what it takes to stay true to yourself.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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