🧠 You can tell a lot about a person by...

Hello, my friend. Hope you had a great weekend. Let’s get right into it - here are three mindsets to inspire you.

- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. A life of self honesty…

Today’s podcast episode is about being at peace with yourself. It’s about being honest with yourself and making that your goal in every facet of your life. It’s asking the question, “am I being honest with myself right now” in who you decide to date, where you work, your friend circle, your routines, what happens when someone hurts you, etc.

It’s a powerful thing to make “I just want to be honest with myself” your goal in life. It takes your power back. It puts an end to allowing other people to dictate how you feel, what you do, the aspirations you have, the timelines you feel rushed to align with, and the way you view the world. I am convinced that true happiness can only find you in life when you meet it halfway - that’s putting an end to the war within yourself by prioritizing radical self honesty above everything else - being “on time”, being “right”, etc.

Listen to the episode here and take back your power.

2. You can tell a lot about a person by…

1. How they treat someone who can't give them anything in return

2. How they react when disappointed

3. How they speak about ex partners

4. How they speak about themselves

5. How they react when unexpected things happen

6. What they do when they feel wronged by someone

7. How they react when you go to them for support

8. How they speak to people in conflict

-@theholisticpsyc

Sometimes the best way to “get out of your feels” about someone is to get into the facts. But are you looking for the facts in the first place? Are you looking at behaviors or words? Are you looking at promises made or promises kept? Are you looking at reality or potential?

Take a step back from your relationship at hand - what are the facts of who they ARE? Not who you want them to be. Sit in the space of observation and facts and examine what you see. Do you see someone who is kind to others? Who is compassionate and patient? Who speaks calmly and with empathy? Who reacts with understanding and humanity? If you need clarity, I recommend asking yourself this one question.

3. No more forcing things...

We’re really bad at NOT forcing things in life.

We force relationships that don’t deserve more of our time or energy. We force jobs that can’t possibly offer us the fulfilment we deserve. We force friendships that are anything but reciprocal. We force interests, timelines and pressure on our ourselves that do not align with what OUR true talents, abilities and timelines actually are.

We think forcing something further - with more of us, more effort, more energy, more time - because we think THAT is the missing element. We think MORE is the solution to getting MORE in life… when deep down we know that we should probably let go.

The biggest thing I’ve learned about NOT forcing things in life is to realize this...

That thing you want so badly- even if it genuinely IS really important and is very much an important part of your life’s story - it’s not THE only piece. It is a piece of your life but it’s not your entire life. Life is bigger than that thing(s) we think we need to force. Life is bigger than success. Life is bigger than love. Life is bigger than a certain timeline. Life is bigger than a certain piece of validation.

The value of your existence - zoomed out - is the sum of ALL things… not just one of them. Love is an amazing part of life. It offers us purpose and connection. But it’s not your entire life. Success, money and validation through talent is an amazing part of life. But it’s not your entire life. When you’re in forcing mode, you’ve gotten to a point where that thing, that person, that relationship or that job has become your life in the sense that you think your larger life success and happiness hinges solely on your ability to get this one piece right TODAY.

We need to give ourselves the gift of thinking bigger for a moment. That's bigger in the sense of realizing that our life’s summed up, zoomed out happiness and fulfilment is bigger than that one piece.

Letting go… ironically… is the key to getting what you deserve. Letting go IS a gift. It is THE gift. When you do so gracefully and with compassion both for yourself and the thing or person you’re letting go of… you’re allowing yourself to finally embrace the truth that not everyone or everything is for you. You’re finally willing to let go of those things because you know that even in the very human moments where you don’t want to let go, where you want to try harder, where you want to speed things up, where you want to change someone… you don’t have to. You can take the pressure off yourself.

And at the end of the day isn’t that why we force things in life? Because we think we need to? Because we think we’re out of options? Because we think we’re falling behind? Because we think that thing is THE Thing?

We have to give ourselves the gift of seeing the bigger picture. We need to find grace in letting go of the things that can’t offer us what we deserve.

We need to find grace in letting go of the season we’re not ready to be in. We need to embrace being in a different season. We need to let go as a means to hang onto our belief in ourselves.

Embrace the season you’re in today. Maybe the best gift you can give yourself right now is stepping into a new season? A season of different? A season of a different piece? Maybe it’s a season of letting go so you can firmly hang onto your standard, your faith and your commitment to your journey?

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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