🧠 A beautiful truth about life

Hello, my friend. Here’s a beautiful truth about life: for every person trying to dim your light, there’s another drawn to your glow. Keep going. You have something special to offer the world, so please don’t forget it.

• I just released a new episode of New Mindset, Who Dis. Listen here.

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Let’s get right into it. Here are three mindsets to inspire you.

- Case Kenny (@case.kenny)

1. Who are you trying to impress?

One of the most universal causes of self-doubt and depression: trying to impress people you don’t like. Stressing to impress is fine, but do it for the right people — those whom you want to emulate. (TimFerriss)

I like this. Who are you trying to impress and why? Does it come from a place of unfair self comparison and judgement? If there’s one thing I’ve learned about comparison, it’s that the happiest people don’t have time for it. The happiest people are too busy doing their own thing to compare themselves to others.

Throw yourself into life. YOUR life. What do YOU love? What makes YOU curious? What are YOU good at? What are YOU drawn to? Make more time for that and watch the unfair self-doubt that comes from trying to impress people you have no business trying to impress fade away. (PS: journaling is a great way to answer those questions 😀)

2. Why do people choose to hurt you?

Listen to today’s episode for some clarity on why people choose to hurt you. We don’t need to turn the pain they give us into suffering by telling ourselves a story about why they hurt us (“I deserved it”) and we don’t need to prescribe any more intention to it (“they hurt me specifically and intentionally”).

We need to realize that most people simply do NOT want to know how their selfish actions impact others. In fact, according to the study I reference in today’s episode, 40% of people would rather “not know” (aka they choose “willful ignorance). They would rather have an “ignorance is bliss” mindset and use that as their moral get out of jail free card.

On today’s episode:

• a better way to react to the people who hurt you

• how to judge them, NOT yourself

• the psychology behind someone hurting you.

Listen here.

3. Can you laugh at yourself?

“If we can’t laugh at something, we can’t think rationally about it.” (Clay Johnson)

Laughing at yourself means taking the pressure away you so naturally put on yourself. It means laughing at how serious you take your stumbles, how absurd your expectations are for yourself, how unrealistic your desire to be perfect is, how random life can be, and just how unlucky you can be sometimes. Laugh at yourself as often as you can.

- Before you jump to a conclusion of how much of a loser you are for losing a deal, laugh.

- Before you scold yourself for not saying the right thing or doing the right thing, laugh.

- Before you beat yourself up for forgetting something important, laugh.

Laugh at how inconsistent you can be sometimes. Laugh at yourself because you’re being unrealistic. Laugh because you’re not perfect and there’s no need to expect yourself to be right now.

You know you’re working on growing. You know you’re working hard. You’re putting in the hours. You’re pushing yourself. You’ll get there. But in the meantime, back off! When you feel yourself gearing up to doubt yourself, replace it with knee jerk laughter. Laughing at yourself trains you to love yourself before you doubt yourself. Laugh because you don’t need to have everything figured out right now. Laugh because you’re too hard on yourself. Laugh because you’re human. Laugh because it heals you. Laugh because it makes you realize that you’re really not lost.

My name is Case. I believe in the power of perspective.

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