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10/10 being your weirdest self to make life interesting and your kindest self to make it matter.
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THREE mindsets to help you reflect, rebel, and reinvent…
1. Some people should be afraid of you…
You should be a kind soul with a fire inside of you. That’s a fire that makes narcissists uneasy. That makes manipulators think twice. That makes people with an angle know you’re not the one to play. Soft and warm, but not to be messed with.
Somewhere along the way, kindness got rebranded as passivity. As being “the bigger person.” Real kindness has a backbone. It has discernment. You can be warm without being weak.
When I say some people should be afraid of you, I don’t mean loud or aggressive. I mean they’re afraid because they can’t control you. Because their usual tricks don’t work.
Practically, this looks like redefining what “kind” means. Kind doesn’t mean endless access, over-explaining, or absorbing other people’s emotional mess. Kind means you don’t humiliate, manipulate, dominate, or retaliate. Kindness is about how you treat people - not how much you tolerate.
Your fire is also pre-decided. You know, ahead of time, what ends access to you. You don’t negotiate with confusion. You don’t argue with patterns. You respond with simple sentences: “This doesn’t work for me.” “I’m stepping away.” No speeches. No drama.
And you let people be disappointed in you. That’s where most people fail. If your self-image depends on being liked, you’ll always be manageable.
The goal isn’t to harden. It’s selectivity. Kind souls with fire don’t shut down their hearts - they place them carefully. That’s why the right people feel safe with you. And the wrong people feel uneasy. That’s the point.
2. What’s meant for you will find you
… and neuroscience proves it.
You become magnetic when you stop hoping for things to work out and start knowing they already are.
It’s called the “Endowed Progress Effect” - your brain is hardwired to finish what it's told is already in progress.
Manifestation is powered by the present tense. “It's happening. “It's on its way." Those are magnetic phrases.
“I’ll find my person someday" > you’re telling your brain: not urgent, not now.
"My person and I are on our way to meet each other right now" >> your brain's search mode is activated.
In the present tense, the brain treats the goal as already in progress, so it hunts for proof, connections, and ways to make it a reality.
đźš«"I hope this works out" âś… "This is already working out.
đźš«"I want to make $10K a month" âś… "$10K months are already becoming my new normal"
đźš«"I want to meet someone who gets me" âś… "Someone who wants what I have to offer is searching for me."
Everything you want is magnetized and moving straight toward you.
3. A mindset…
I have a theory that when the relationship fades with someone you once thought was forever, it's your soul remembering the size of the love it actually deserves.
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Some things I’m excited about…
The power of optimism
I had the honor of teaching “the language of optimism” to 450 employees, clients, and industry experts in Minneapolis last week at Marsh McLennan Agency’s “Thrive Boldly” event. It was amazing!
PS: If you’re interested in learning more about my “language of optimism” sessions for your company or community, visit this page.
Reminder…
You can’t dim someone who learned to shine in the dark.
My favorite life hack…
Instead of saying "I hope this works out," say "I'm grateful for how this worked out." When you thank the universe in advance, you rewire your brain to expect things to work in your favor.
That’s it for today. See you next time.
- Case Kenny
