🧠 5 ways to attract what you want

There’s something beautiful about people who were called delusional for chasing their vision, and now it’s their reality.

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1. FIVE ways to attract more luck

1. Good things happen to people who underthink things.
People who move before fear sets in create momentum. Overthinking inhibits the brain’s action center - the more you think, the slower you act. Intuitive decision-making often leads to better outcomes because intuition is really just experience disguised as instinct. Trusting your gut isn’t mystical, it’s your future self guiding you.

2. Life rewards people who take themselves less seriously.
Confidence isn’t about control, it’s about ease. Talking to yourself in the third person during stress lowers cortisol and boosts emotional control. Humor works the same way. People who laugh at themselves experience less anxiety and higher self-esteem. The most confident people don’t crumble when they fall short - they laugh, adjust, and keep going.

3. Life rewards people who “waste” time intentionally.
Boredom fuels originality. A 2014 University of Central Lancashire study found that participants who did repetitive tasks before brainstorming came up with more creative ideas. When the brain’s default mode network activates during idle moments, it connects ideas that structured thinking misses. People who stare out the window or walk without their phone aren’t wasting time, they’re building the foundation for inspiration.

4. Life rewards people who assume everyone likes them.
The “liking gap,” shows that we underestimate how much others like us. People who assume they’re liked act warmer and more confident, creating a feedback loop of genuine connection. Belief alters behavior - and behavior shapes reality. The world meets you at the level of your self-permission.

5. Life rewards people who are specific.
Vague goals confuse the brain, specific ones activate it. Prospect Theory shows we act faster when outcomes are concrete. Your brain literally scans for opportunities that match what it believes is important. The people who seem lucky aren’t lucky - they’re clear. Specificity creates magnetism. You can’t attract what you can’t name.

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2. The power of being delusional

First you’re “delusional,” then you’re living the life you always knew was possible.

I suppose self belief is delusional, because by the dictionary, to be delusional is to hold false beliefs. And it’s been beaten not that who we are right now is not good enough.

So to you say: “I am worthy”… that is a bit delusional because it feels untrue. 

And when you embrace being delusional, people will say you’re “asking for too much” you’re “doing too much,” but if you hold on eventually you’re surrounded by exactly what you held out for.

You can’t grow into a life you don’t first believe you deserve. So be delusional.

3. Are they ready for a relationship?

Sometimes you meet someone who has everything you want in a partner, but not what it takes to be one. They say all the right things, match your energy, make you laugh. You believe this time might be different. Then a small disagreement or plan that falls through exposes the truth: they can play the part of love, but they can’t sustain it.

That’s when you realize the difference between wanting love and having the stamina for it. Most people think relationships last because of chemistry or compatibility, but the real foundation is emotional endurance - the ability to stay grounded when things get uncomfortable.

“They have what I want” looks like passion and attention. “They don’t have what it takes” looks like defensiveness, avoidance, or shutting down. Emotional endurance is what keeps love alive through misunderstanding and mess. It’s staying when ego says leave. It’s choosing to communicate instead of letting silence rot the connection.

You see who has endurance in the small moments: when plans fall through, when tension rises, when someone’s phone dies mid-argument. People who lack it spiral. People who have it pause, breathe, and come back. Endurance is saying “let’s fix this” instead of “forget it.” It’s texting “get home safe” even when you’re mad.

Anyone can have what you want - charm, chemistry, potential. Few have what it takes: the patience, the consistency, the emotional stamina to keep showing up when it’s no longer easy.

The spark is easy. The follow-through is rare.

Today’s podcast episode

745 - Are they ready for a relationship? In this episode, I talk about the ONE thing required of a partner to make a relationship work. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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